What to Do if You are Turning 50

Enter AARP

I remember when I first turned 50. It was a big deal. Even though, depending on where you look, it’s not clear if I am actually a Baby Boomer or Gen X, I did nonetheless have to face the reality of having the side by side digits “5” and “0” represent my age. And yes, I did receive an invite in the mail from the AARP.

Fitting Into the Over 50 Box

So what should you do when you turn 50? Should you get an over 50 hairstyle? How about starting to wear over 50 glasses? Really, my suggestion of what to do when you become the big 5-0 is not to be ruled by your age. This doesn’t mean you should not recognize you age, but you shouldn’t change too much as a person to fit into an over 50 box.

A Lot to Live for

Sadly, my second cousin once removed ended her life when she turned 50. She had used her beauty to get by and presumably saw 50 as when it really starts to go all downhill in terms of looks. There is a lot to be happy about when you turn 50. If you are as lucky as I am to have a wonderful wife as well as our amazing 12 year old daughter, this is a much to live for.

Want a More Fulfilling Life?

But even if you do not have a partner or child, 50 can be a marker of a new lease on life. You could try dating sites for over 50s or change up your fashion. Although it is important to not forget who you are, this is a chance to redefine your fashion traits or even your diet. Turning 50 can be a great time to analyze how you have been doing things, like the food you eat or how you dress, and making healthy changes could result in a more fulfilling life.

Gratitude

True, you might start feeling changes in your physical abilities including certain things let standing up and more can be more painful than when you were 20. But even with the challenges, it is important to create a life of meaning if you haven’t already. Be grateful for the things you already have with an eye to the future.

Growing Old Isn’t That Fun

I know, I know, happiness is a choice and just staring out at the scenery is magical. Just keep telling yourself that when your kids put you in a nursing home.

Life is Short

All of us over 50 have likely thought at one time or another about the aging process and how it isn’t always very fun. In fact as a very famous celebrity once said “There’s nothing fun about growing old.” If you are over 50 you are likely familiar with the new pains, tiredness and unhappiness with how your skin is changing, the gray is coming out in your hair and the realization you are not going to live forever.

Denial

Of course there are those over 50 who say that they are no having the best time of their life. Lucky people these, but they are few and far between. And who believes them anyway? Most of those who are over 50 and trying to push forward a persona of being over 50 and loving it, are likely in denial and if he or she were ever to actually facing aging could snap.

Zoo

And then there are those of us who are still in our 50s who know that aging sucks plain and simple. The body falls apart and the thoughts get darker. We’re not saying that there are not people out there who are over 50 and who are actually enjoying aging, but if such an animal does exist, we haven’t seen it yet. Maybe we should go to the the zoo more often.

50 is Not Just a Number

It’s Just a Number, Right?

If you are over 50 chances are you’ve heard the phrase “Age is just a number.” Meaning I suppose that just because you are over 50 you do not have to think like you are.

Think Young?

So what  do you do to think young? Yoga? Eat healthy? Date someone who’s 30?

Setting the Record Straight

Well folks, I’m here to set the record straight. If you are over 50, you ARE over 50. Not sure. Listen to your body. Hard to keep the weight off now? Over 50. Memory loss starting? Over 50. Aches and pains? Over 50. Being looked at differently? Over 50. Trying to convince yourself that age is just a number? Over 50.

Over 50 in the Grips of the Coronavirus

You Can Still Feel the Squeeze

You can still feel boxed in even if you don’t have COVID-19. These are especially scary times for those over 50. Even those in their mid 50’s are dangerously close to the demographic for which the virus can be deadly.

Solutions

For those over 50 finding solutions is challenging. Just getting the very basic necessities is a mountain to climb. Where are the resources? Where is the help? Starting at age 65 there is a clear path to assistance, but mid 50’s not so lucky.

Danger

Physically we are in danger yet those of us in our early to mid 50’s simply do not have access to a means of taking care of themselves unless they are wealthy. It is as though society has forgotten the over 50 and pre 65 age group. To follow the journey of seeking assistance for someone in this group, check out the blog/website Manhattan Coronavirus.